The childhood memory sharing community is a therapy oriented community where trauma survivors safely share childhood memories and connect them to relationship styles with others on similar healing journeys.

Think of it as a safe space to share your story, hear others' stories, and connect the dots between childhood experiences and adult relationship patterns.

Structured memory sharing: We ask our members to share factual childhood experiences rather than current issues with their family. This keeps the focus on the past rather than the present.

Relationship styles sharing: We ask our members to share about their relationship patterns rather than what issues their partner, parents, or children might have. This keeps the focus on themselves rather than others.

Safety requirements: Members must be 25+, currently in therapy, and committed to continuing professional support. This ensures everyone has the emotional resources and professional guidance needed for memory work.

Trauma-informed moderation: All sharing is moderated to maintain focus on memory-to-style nexus while limiting unhelpful discussions about others. Check out our Community Guidelines here .

Our trauma-informed community provides anonymity, guided and moderated memory sharing, trauma-informed guidelines, and connection with others who also want to heal. This safe space allows you to share at your own pace without judgment, while receiving support from people with similar experiences.

The mix of reading others' memories and being heard can help reframe your early life story, build self-empathy and accelerate childhood memory integration process.

"Connecting the dots" means seeing the clear lines between specific childhood experiences and your current relationship patterns. When you read others' memories alongside their relationship styles, patterns become visible that might be invisible when looking at your own life alone.

For example, reading how someone's chaotic childhood environment filled with fighting and verbal assaults led to their Running Away To Peace relationship style might help you recognize similar patterns in your own relationships.

This "aha" moment of connection can be deeply healing and help explain behaviors that previously felt automatic, confusing, and shameful.

When you share your own memories in a safe space, the act of putting experiences into words helps your brain process and organize them differently. You might notice details or connections you hadn't seen before.

Reading others' memories provides perspective: You see how their childhood experiences feed into their relationship styles. Often, these patterns are easier to recognize in others than in yourself.

Unprocessed childhood memories often drive current relationship behaviors without your conscious awareness. When you can clearly see the connection between past experience and present pattern, it moves from unconscious reaction to conscious choice.

Understanding the "why" behind your relationship styles helps you approach them with self-compassion rather than self-criticism. You realize these patterns made perfect sense given what you experienced as a child.

Focus on childhood memories: Share specific memories from your childhood or adolescence, focusing on specific events and facts which you remember.

Connect to relationship styles: Describe your current relationship patterns or connect to your test results.

Keep it personal: Share your own experiences rather than advice, interpretations of others' situations, or complaints about current partners.

No relationship advice: The community is not for seeking or giving advice about current relationships, dating, or partners.

No crisis content: Don't share if you're currently in emotional crisis. Use your therapeutic support or crisis resources instead.

No detailed trauma descriptions: While we acknowledge difficult experiences, avoid graphic details that might be triggering for others.

Respond with empathy: When commenting on others' memories, focus on validation and shared understanding rather than advice or analysis.

Respect anonymity: Members choose their level of anonymity. Don't ask for identifying information or try to connect outside the platform.

Honor boundaries: If someone doesn't respond to your comment or doesn't want to engage, respect their choice without taking it personally.

That's completely normal and okay. Many trauma survivors have gaps in childhood memories. You can share what you do remember, even small fragments, or focus on patterns you notice in your adult relationships. Sometimes other members' stories help trigger your own memories in a gentle way.

This is expected and why we require ongoing therapeutic support. If sharing brings up intense emotions, pause and reach out to your therapist. The community isn't meant to replace professional support but to complement it. Take breaks as needed and share only what feels manageable.

You're likely ready if you're in stable therapy, feel curious about your patterns rather than overwhelmed by them, and want to connect with others who understand similar experiences. If you're in crisis or recently discovered trauma, consider waiting until you have more support in place.

We maintain a smaller, intimate community size to ensure quality connections and proper moderation. The exact number varies, but we prioritize depth of connection over large numbers. This creates a more personal, supportive environment.

There's no required time commitment. Some members check in weekly, others monthly. You participate at your own pace. Reading others' stories might take 10-15 minutes, while writing your own memory might take 30-60 minutes. It's entirely up to you.

The community is completely private and invitation-only. All content is moderated and only visible to approved members. We use secure platforms and don't retain data unnecessarily. Members choose their own level of anonymity within the community.

There’s no cost to join. Membership is free.

Absolutely. You can leave at any time without explanation. We understand that community healing isn't right for everyone or might not be right at a particular time in your journey. Your previous posts remain anonymous if you choose to leave.