đźš« What it means to have grown up with sexual tensions or inappropriate behavior between family members
Growing up with inappropriate sexual boundaries in your family meant your comfort and safety weren't a priority, and you learned early that your boundaries didn't matter.
In your family, sexual boundaries may have been crossed, teaching you that the limits between family members simply didn't exist. You might struggle to say "no" or set limits with others because you learned early that your boundaries would be ignored or violated. Your nervous system may have learned to store memories in your body, sometimes reacting with alarm to safe touch or making you feel disconnected from parts of yourself.
You may have absorbed the belief that your body exists for others' use or judgment rather than for your own joy and experience. Intimate relationships might remain complicated territory—physical closeness can unexpectedly trigger feelings of danger or discomfort that have nothing to do with the present moment. You might alternate between freezing during unwanted advances and people-pleasing to avoid conflict, both survival responses from childhood.