Explore Survivor Love Styles
What’s Your Survivor Love Style?
Our quiz analyzes how traumatic childhood experiences may have shaped how you show up in your relationships
LIVING IN ANCESTRAL SHADOWS
You carry in your body events that were never yours—echoes of wars your grandparents survived, memories of displacement that taught your family that home is always temporary, shadows of persecution that made vigilance a family heirloom 🕯️. Your family's history reads like a survival manual written in trauma—race riots, pogroms, revolution, wars, forced displacement, camps—terrible historical events that happened before you were born, but they still feel alive, haunting your mind 🧠. You inherited both your ancestors' incredible resilience and their specific fears. You learned to read danger in places where others see safety and to always have an escape plan even when there's nowhere to run 🚪🏃♀️.
There were shadows in your family story—things people wouldn't talk about, but that shaped how everyone behaved and what they feared 😱. You grew up feeling responsible for carrying your family's history and honoring their suffering, sometimes at the cost of creating your own identity and future. You learned to be wary of authority, to never fully trust that safety will last, and to see catastrophe lurking just around the corner, because for your people, it usually was. This gives you profound empathy for suffering and an almost supernatural ability to detect injustice ⚖️. You've become fiercely protective of those you love against any perceived slight or injustice, sometimes overreacting to minor situations because your nervous system can't tell the difference between a rude comment and actual persecution 🛡️. But it also means your nervous system lives in a state of intergenerational hyperalertness
—preparing for disasters that happened in the past, yet feel like they might happen yet again at any moment ⚡.