RESISTING QUICK CLOSENESS

You became an unwilling immigrant in your own home, suddenly expected to "belong" with strangers who had authority over you while grieving the loss of your original family 💔. Everyone pretended this new arrangement was perfectly normal and you should be grateful, while you felt displaced, disempowered, and forced to accept people you didn't choose and often didn't even like 😤. The trauma wasn't about lacking the adaptation skill—it was about having the loss of ideal family dismissed and unacknowledged.

Now you struggle with trusting new relationships, feel instantly resentful when others try to force closeness 🚫, and have a deep aversion to being told you "should" feel grateful for situations you never wanted. You've developed an internal alarm system that goes off whenever someone tries to rush intimacy because you learned that relationships often come with hidden agendas and loss of self. You sense the potential betrayal or double-bottom lurking underneath their good intentions.