TERRIFIED OF ABANDONMENT

Early loss taught you that people you depend on can vanish suddenly and permanently, leaving you with a terror of abandonment that lives in your bones 🦴. You developed incredible loyalty and the ability to deeply appreciate the people in your life while they're here 💕. Your fear makes you a devoted friend and partner who never takes relationships for granted. But this same terror drives you to extremes: you find yourself testing relationships—pushing people away before they can leave you, or clinging so tightly you drive them away 🔄. You panic when people seem distant or don't respond quickly, interpreting normal space as potential abandonment. You're terrified that anyone you love deeply will leave you, either by choice or by forces beyond your control. The cruel irony is that your fear of losing people sometimes creates the very losses you're trying to prevent.